How to Let It Go
- Experience it. Whatever it is, it is coming up for you because it is ready to be seen, felt, and healed. Become a witness to your inner state around it. Watch your thoughts, feel the sensations, experience the emotions. It might show up as uncomfortable, frustrating, or terrifying. You might want to quit or run away. But by honoring what you feel right now, you won’t have to carry it with you later.
Experience is not obsession. If you find yourself caught in a loop of negativity, replaying words over and over in your head, diving into the emotion until it overcomes you, you have gone too far. When you notice repetition of thought, take action: Stretch. Go for a walk. Ride a bike. Take a shower. Write in your journal. Get un-stuck in your body to get un-stuck in your head.
- Accept it. Allow your experience to be, without assigning it a positive or negative value. Accept everything you feel for all that it is, and all that it is not. This applies to emotions, thoughts, physical sensations, moods, situations, and people—Including yourself.
Acceptance is effortless. You cannot talk yourself into acceptance. You cannot try to make it happen, you cannot use reason, coercion, or force, and you cannot accept something if you push it aside. Your brain will tell you you can accept things by thinking about accepting them. True acceptance comes from the heart.
- Surrender it. Be honest with yourself first, and only take this step once you have experienced and accepted. You are not obligated to hold onto it any longer, so give it up to a higher power: Close your eyes and watch yourself surrender it to the earth, the Light of God, your creator, the universe, or something greater than yourself.
Surrender is not weakness. It requires strength and courage to give up control. As long as you have experienced and accepted first, surrender is not an escape. It is the only way to truly let it go.
- Rinse and repeat.