When It’s Already Over
This applies to nearly everything: Jobs, friendships, and relationships.
- You made a pros/cons list.
- Learning is not happening anymore.
- Setting future plans makes you feel uneasy.
- You walk around with a lump in your throat, a pit in your stomach, an ache in your heart, or an impending sense of doom.
- You often daydream about starting something new.
- It feels impossible to rest, relax, or be yourself.
- You secretly hope they will end it before you do.
- The last meaningful moment you had is fading from your memory.
- Routine, nostalgia, safety, or comfort is keeping you in.
- You have to convince yourself you are having fun.
- Communication is challenging, even when you have a lot to say.
- The little irritating things become big irritating things.
- You realize you are growing in different directions.
- The idea of being around them gives you anxiety.
- Every opportunity—even the not-so-good ones—sound appealing.
- You find yourself pulling away (and you pretend you’re not).
- You are already mourning the ending.
- You are running out of excuses for your flakiness, frustration, or sadness.
- You hope tomorrow will be the day it gets better.
- ...And you've been hoping this for awhile.